Even if you’re monogamous.This is not just for polyamorous people. Your partner is allowed to have fulfilling friendships outside of you. Your partner is allowed to turn to other people to help meet their needs. Demanding that they only come to you is unrealistic, toxic, possessive, and an unhealthy dynamic. The narrative that your partner should get everything from you - and you get everything from them - is a harmful product of bad rom coms. Don’t fall for it.
Absolutely even if you’re monogamous. Maybe especially then.
Your partner should have fulfilling relationships outside of the one they have with you. This isn’t just something you should tolerate, it’s something you should encourage, for your own emotional well-being as well as theirs. If your partner doesn’t want to have any relationships outside of the one they have with you, something is terribly wrong.
There’ll be a moment when you realise you’re 27 when yesterday you were just 17; and you wouldn’t be able to tell how a decade passed away and your life got divided into before and afters. The fury of youth will subdue and nothing will really change but everything will feel different when you look at old photographs and blurry videos taken on cheap mobile phones. Scents will remind you of childhood and certain friends you don’t talk to anymore, hangouts will become reunions and mom’s burnt pie will become the best food you ever had. And I know on some days you won’t be able to show anything of those 10 years but I hope you remember to breathe, and let go of the knot in your chest. I hope you go out in the sun and live a little, because tomorrow is 37.
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One last final, for 7:15am. With the weather being at its winter best.
After 6.5 years, I am actually doing this. Graduation ceremony in one week.
College has been the wildest thrill ride I could’ve imagined.
For all those all-nighters studying/watching movies, starting a sorority chapter on campus for women in stem fields, working part-time jobs, going to so many adventures and raves…